Lost and lonely

Giving up the Guilt and Getting Back on Track.

The holidays are almost over and the kids will be heading back to school. I am feeling  a tad guilty because I haven't done many of the things on my long list, things that I said I would do over this 6 week period.

This is not NEW! However I forget every year just how hard it is to actually work with 3 kids hanging around. They eat 6 times as much food, make 10 times as much mess and require driving here there and everywhere. The brain just isn't in the right space for creating magnificent wondrous art, business entrepreneurship and planning world domination etc. etc.

So the blog hasn't been happening and I have taken my eye off the ball. However only my own ball, I have still been watching everyone else's. LIVING VICARIOUSLY!


KOOoooooWE,  IS THERE ANYBODY OUT THERE.........?"
I noticed a similar absence in the blogesphere of fellow blogger and friend of mine Trailing Grace. I missed her posts, they always give me something to think about. So I sent her a message on FB. Being a great friend is noticing the little things (I try my best). And it is very easy to feel that you are typing away and nobody is listening and it is fantastic to know some one IS OUT THERE who misses you.

Grace is an amazing forthright person who doesn't mind a bit of self reflection and sometimes it helps others along the way. Me included.

Check out her response to my queries below.

Thanks Grace, you should never again feel insignificant or alone, because you never know who is watching and waiting for the scent of Trailing Grace.

x Davia

How many ways can you slice a PIZZA?

HUNGRY FOR LIFE?

In my kitchen this week - Homemade pizza
Not perfectly round but definitely tasty.

So how many ways can you slice a pizza?
It depends on how big a slice you want.
There are as many ways as you can imagine and choose.
Don't even get me statrted on toppings....

LIFE COULD BE LIKE PIZZA

It is all about choice.

I mention several times throughout this blog that I am a bird watcher, not only in the literal sense, but also in a metaphorical sense. This metaphor has arisen out of my propensity to change my mind about what I want to do in life several times over.

The metaphor was devised by my husband (an engineer, that should explain everything) who chose what he wanted to do early in life and has pretty much stuck to his plan.

The problem arises when a  career driven engineer marries an artist or rather a creative spirit. Creative spirits are always looking for something else. It is what gives us reason to get up in the morning. It is what makes us tick. Creative spirits are never happy doing the same thing for eternity. Non creative sometimes JUST DON'T GET US!

That said, some of us do like a touch of continuity and rhythm in our lives (ritual and routine) because it provides us with a safe and secure base from which to explore.

Are you the type of person who likes the Pizza or do you want the whole all you can eat buffet?

The thing about pizza is no matter how many ways you slice it, it is still pizza. Do you like large slices or small bites?

Me...? I want to sample everything there is!

Davia

How is this Year Shaping UP for YOU? Thinner, Fatter, Richer, Fitter, Blonder? Did someone say 'CHOCHOLATE CAKE'?

It didn’t go off with a bang. Sure there were fireworks down on the beach, and we could see them, if we stood on our tippy toes and peered through the trees. We could see a row of flares, the type people hold in their hand and wave above their heads. But it wasn’t a bang for me, just the gentle ticking over of my swatch and then another minute had gone by, but there was something different in the air. I know that this year things are actually going to be different.

I have listened to both the pros and con's about making New Years Resolutions. And even more debate about whether or not to  make your new years resolutions public knowledge.

Some say that when you announce your resolution to the world and get great support for it, you gain instant satisfaction for being such a great person etc. etc. And then you promptly take you foot of the peddle  and go looking for some other sort of gratification, in something like.... say... CHOCOLATE CAKE!

Flip side is, if you tell everybody they will hold you to it. But does that really work? I don't think so. I am not convinced that other people really care enough to hold you to anything. I know that is extreme isn't it. However I don't think anyone likes being held to account themselves so they don't do it to others. It makes them uncomfortable and may have repercussions. ie; you will hold them to their resolution.

So everyone shuts up and pretends they didn't hear a thing and as an added benefit we walk around feeling guilty that we are not living up to the things we said we would. Guilt! A very dangerous thing.y

So this year I am not going to talk about what I am GOING to do. Instead I am going to live in the moment and tell you what I AM doing. And what interesting things others are doing. Surly that has to be a bit more inspiring?

A lot of blogs are built around resolution of some kind, loose weight, shop more, brag more, share more, sell more, diets, fads, fashion, food, culture etc.... etc....

But is more better? Surely we are totally overloaded with people trying to sell us stuff, (me included to a point, never comfortable with it).

It is time for a new look , stay tuned.
Davia